LGBTQ+ stands for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer, Plus. There are many identities that fall under the LGBTQ+ umbrella, and the “+” refers to the many additional ways people may identify, such as pansexual, two spirit, asexual, intersex, etc.
Pronouns are words that are used in the place of nouns. If you say “That’s Eric. He is nice,” the word “he” is a pronoun, which is being used in place of “Eric”. There are many pronouns that exist in the world, and you are the only person who can decide which are the right pronouns to be used for you. Often, people make assumptions about the gender of another person based on the person’s appearance or name and assign gendered pronouns accordingly. These assumptions aren’t always correct, and the act of assuming (even if correct) sends a potentially harmful message – that people have to look a certain way to demonstrate the gender that they are or are not. Like our names, pronouns reflect how we want to be respected in our identities. This is especially important for those who are transgender, non-binary and gender non-conforming. At Colorado State University, our Principles of Community include respect, inclusion, and social justice, and using the pronouns and name someone uses for themselves is one way to honor these principles.
We can help you with that! Check out this webpage here under our Trans on Campus tab.
Ok! You’re perfect just the way you are, and we’re excited that you’re becoming ready to learn more about your identities and our community. Coming out can be scary, as we don’t always know who in our lives will be supportive, not supportive, or need to take some time. The most important piece is that you make decisions that are safe and supportive to yourself. Here are some tips:
- Don’t rush yourself. You may feel pressure to tell everyone at once. It’s ok if you start slow and tell people as you feel comfortable. You do not owe coming out to anyone.
- Establish a support network. Identify a group of friends, family members, or mentors who you talk to and who will check in on you as you navigate this process. Having just one person who you can be your authentic self with can make a world of difference; you don’t have to go it alone.
- Practice. Think about how you may tell folks. Some people may write down what they want to say, look up tips online, or practice with a friend or mentor first.
- It doesn’t need to be perfect. There is no one right way to come out. Do it how it feels natural and good for you.
- Are there any potential impacts on your housing, safety, access to food, or financial situation? These can be good questions to talk through with a friend or mentor so you are prepared and can access resources as needed.
About the Pride Resource Center
Our best recommendation is to stop by our office, 8AM-5PM on weekdays. Our front desk staff will be happy to give you a tour of the center and answer any questions you have. There are many ways to be involved in our center, from attending one-time events, weekly meetings, doing homework or hanging out in our center, volunteering, or working for us. We’ll be happy to answer your questions and get you signed up for our weekly newsletter.